Is It Important to Change the Way People See You?

by HardTalk™ Team | Perspiration

You can’t always be best friends with the people you work with, especially in highly diverse offices.  But research shows that having the social skills to make sure people like you can help in multiple ways – these 12 tips could transform your working life.

No wants to work with, or help, someone they don’t like.

No matter who you are, what level of an organization you work at or
in what kind of industry it is important to be liked. According to
research done by Tiziana Casciaro at Harvard Business School, people
would rather work with a like-able person who is incompetent than with
someone highly competent but obnoxious. She also found that people are
more likely to notice an increase in your like-ability than an increase
in your technical skills.

You’ll never be liked by everyone but social skills matterTweet this
so here are my top 12 practical tips for making sure that people like
you. They’re not rocket science but they’re not easy either.

Read: 18 Things Respected Well-Liked Leaders Consistently Do

12 tips to change the way people see you

1) Decide that it matters

Most of us have to work at being likeable but research shows that the
biggest barrier is not caring. That means if you just decide you want
to do better at being like-able you probably will.

2) Care about others

The most important thing you can do to be more like-able is to like
more people. Even someone who doesn’t seem to be “your sort” will have
at least one thing that you like or find interesting. Find it and
remember it.

3) Take responsibility

You are responsible for creating positive relationshipsTweet this so put as much effort into that as you do into other parts of your work.

Read: 4 ways to improve your relationship with your boss

4) Don’t try to fool people

Toxic Relationships

You’ve got to be genuine – any mask we wear eventually falls and
people are unlikely to forgive you if they feel deceived. Change the way
people see you for good.

5) Think about what other people want

If you want to be liked, help others to reach their goals. In the long run this will make it easier for you to reach yours.

6) Don’t forget flattery

This doesn’t mean begin insincere. Often we like someone because we
feel liked by them. Everyone has something about them that you can like
or find impressive. When you spot it, tell them.

7) Be confident.

It doesn’t matter how lovely you are if no-one gets to speak with
you. Work on your self esteem so you can look people in the eye – it’s
hard to like someone if you think they’re avoiding you!

Read: Assertive Communication – Building Healthy Relationships

8) Ask questions and listen

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Listening is the key to likeability

If you want to be liked then become interested in others. Nobody is
so boring that this isn’t possible. Ask open questions, listen to the
replies and follow up with more questions.

9) Be positive

If you want to be liked then don’t spend your day complaining and being negative.Tweet this
Unbridled optimism is not the answer but there is no reason to bring
everyone else down because you’ve had a bad day – save that for your
close friends or partner.

10) Don’t gossip or backbite

Making others look bad almost always comes back to haunt you. Be very careful before passing on gossip.

11) Remember names

People hate it when you don’t remember their names. It shows a lack
of interest. Do whatever works for you to get better at this.

12) Smile

If you smile often, you appear as a friendly, outgoing, and light
hearted person. It also makes you feel happier. In other words, you’re
more like-able!

This article originally appeared here: http://3plusinternational.com/2017/05/change-the-way-people-see-you/

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